The Real Cause of Struggle And Burnout

I just read the following Byron Katie quote in Jamie Smart’s newsletter.

“As long as you think that the cause of your problem is “out there” as long as you think that anyone or anything is responsible for your suffering— the situation is hopeless. It means that you are forever in the role of victim, that you’re suffering in paradise.”

We live in a society in which we grow up and raise our children with embracing the victim role, without often realizing that we do.

We grow up with one (1) fundamental misunderstanding.

On one side of that misunderstanding we will drop into victimhood, in which our mental well-being and health seems to be depending on other people’s actions, remarks, the number on our bank account, the weather, trauma’s, past experiences, work environments, managers, society, the president-elect, how spotless the house is, the diagnosis that we think we are, the tasks we have to get done, the deadline, …

On the flip side of that misunderstanding we feel that we can be at cause: we start chasing dreams, goals, outcomes, surround us with ‘the right’ people, take self development after self development course, make sure that the we get done what we needs to get done…. just because we believe that any of that will make us feel at peace, feel happy, feel complete, feel safe, confident, successful, …

We are much like dogs chasing their own tails... never able to catch them

How does this misunderstanding play out in a business environment?

The symptoms of this will be found everywhere in business

  • toxic goals/outcomes and KPI’s
  • designing unhelpful structures
  • gossiping and blaming culture
  • sloppy decision making, postponing decisions
  • difficult communication and connections
  • lack of clarity, trust and vision of the leadership
  • harsh leadership styles based on ‘control and order’
  • depending on others to take the lead
  • high levels of stress and anxiety
  • high levels of absenteeism
  • lack of motivation
  • focus and energy is lost a long meetings in order to fix and set things ‘right’ with very little of no prevail.


Now when the fogs of that simple misunderstanding clear up something neat happens…

That what you’ve been looking for emerges right there… resilience, peace of mind, clarity, well-being, creativity, recommended you read

Fact: you’re always at cause

Fact: mental well-being is always there available for you, even if it doesn’t look that way.

Fact: happiness will never be found out there, neither can it ever escape you.

In business this means that stress levels, absenteeism, blaming and gossiping, … will decrease AND that performance, productivity, problem solving, healthy leadership, intrinsic motivation will increase significantly.

Please join the conversation. Now is the right moment to engage.

There’s an overall increase of focus in the business world towards approaching things in a different way. It might be out of a necessity to keep the business relevant or just common sense or being fed up with how things go or being able to adapt to the digital revolution, …

Whatever your reason, seeing through this misunderstanding will give you and your team the mental clarity, flexibility and resilience to do what needs to be done in a less stressful, more productive and effective way.

If you want to know more about how you or your team can let go of this misunderstanding and call a halt to burnout, blaming, victimhood, struggle and grinding in your company or life contact me here for an exploring conversation.

Bart is a transformational coach, Three Principles facilitator and business mentor. His clients typically experience deep generative changes and will attain a more hopeful, deeper grounding in life and what's possible for them.
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